Are We Dating the Same Person?
BBC Trending investigates “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups and how a Telegram group set up in response led to revenge porn being shared with thousands.
At the start of 2025, a chat appeared on the encrypted messaging app Telegram.
It was named “Are we dating the same girl?” At first only a few hundred people joined. Soon that was thousands, and its content went from details of young women’s dating history, to revenge porn - sexually explicit videos and images.
BBC Trending traces the Telegram group's origins back to Are We Dating the Same Guy groups on Facebook. But how did they first come about? Why are they seen as an important safety tool for some and something that’s ruined lives for others? And how did the idea spread to Telegram, with serious consequences?
Reporter: Megan Lawton
Producer: Sam Gruet
Editor: Flora Carmichael
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